Do you think you have work life balance? A good litmus test is to observe your energy level. Are you warn out, do you lose your patience easily, often feel moody or pessimistic. Is it hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel? Has the fun completely gone out of your life?
Most of us tend to think we can do it all. Women especially experience "supermom" or "superwoman syndrome." Logically, we know we cant do it all, but by gosh, we're gonna die trying. Consequently, We forego simple pleasures, take on unnecessary burdens and, quite frankly, put other’s needs before our own. This is a recipe for ill-health, depression, and overall sadness. It’s time to sit down and determine how to live a balanced life.
Performing selfless acts is noble, but it takes a toll we may not be aware of. There is nothing wrong with being selfish. While everyone seems to be concentrating on themselves, you are focusing on them. The first step to a balanced life is to think about you and your needs. If you fall apart, you won’t be of any use to anyone. Selfishness is not defined by an inability to help others; it is the means by which you regenerate yourself by focusing on your own needs. Simple ordinary pleasures can make a world of difference in your life such as: a manicure, a day out with friends; a new outfit.
You’re mental and emotional state has more to do with the balance within than you realize. Worry drains us; yet we can’t seem to control it. We tolerate many things which essentially drain our energy, leaving us feeling empty and void of feeling. Sleepless nights ensue, and the cycle begins all over again the next day. Confront the problems head on; let the water out of the tank before it bursts open. Worry about the things you can control.
Protect your space from intruders who are intent on invading your thoughts and inner peace. If someone is rude or makes a disparaging remark; walk away. If a situation arises creating angst, deal with it then let it go. Don’t let it disrupt your life by claiming it as your own. You didn’t create it, nor are you responsible for it. Try not to solve the ills of the world or place the burden on your shoulders. Life is hard enough without placing unimportant needs ahead of your own.
The bottom line to finding more work life balance is to love yourself! Look yourself in the mirror every morning and acknowledge the unique person you are. Let yourself "off the hook" for unrealistic expectations that other people (and you) place on yourself. Empower yourself to accomplish your most intimate goals; make time for your own needs and wants. Conduct yourself with dignity and honor, acknowledging the kindness and goodness in you. Finally, take charge of your life; nurture it, reward it; and the balance within will reveal itself through the smile on your face, and the gleam in your eyes.